Alain de Botton Quotes, Love Is Quotes, Views Quotes

To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.

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Serious journalists often imagine society is adrift because people don't know certain things. Yet often, they know but just don't care. So the task of serious journalism isn't just to lay out truths. It is to make vital truths compelling to a big audience.

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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don't yet know very well.

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The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.

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After 40 (old age for most of man's history), one should strive to be more or less packed and ready to go were the end call to come.

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Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.

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The price we have paid for expecting to be so much more than our ancestors is a perpetual anxiety that we are far from being all we might be.

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It wasn't only fanatics and drunkards who began conversations with strangers in public.

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Most of us still caged within careers chosen for us by our not entirely worldly 18-22 year old selves.

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We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.

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To be loved by someone is to realize how much they share the same needs that lie at the heart of our own attraction to them. Albert Camus suggested that we fall in love with people because, from the outside, they look so whole, physically whole and emotionally 'together' - when subjectively we feel dispersed and confused. We would not love if there were no lack within us, but we are offended by the discovery of a similar lack in the other. Expecting to find the answer, we find only the duplicate of our own problem.

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In their different ways, art and philosophy help us, in Schopenhauer's words, to turn pain into knowledge.

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What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.

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Good books put a finger on emotions that are deeply our own - but that we could never have described on our own.

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Many moments in religion seem attractive to me even though I can't believe in any of it.

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In reality, the likelihood of reaching the pinnacle of capitalist society today is only marginally better than were the chances of being accepted into the French nobility four centuries ago, though at least an aristocratic age was franker, and therefore kinder, about the odds. It did not relentlessly play up the possibilities open to all, and so, in turn, did not cruelly equate an ordinary life with a failed one.

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as the determinants of high status keep shifting, so, too, naturally, will the triggers of status anxiety be altered.

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A lump rises in our throat at the sight of beauty from an implicit knowledge that the happiness it hints at is the exception.

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Choosing a spouse and a choosing career: the two great decisions for which society refuses to set up institutional guidance.

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A 'good job' can be both practically attractive while still not good enough to devote your entire life to.

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